According to what we learned in class last week, I am more of a fighter. I like to get my way, and usually I’m going to put in some effort to try and make whatever I’m suggesting the option that is picked. However knowing myself the way that I do, I can say that I will only fight up until I see that a group is completely unwilling to even consider my way an option. I don’t enjoy wasting my time. The other part to that is that if I genuinely believe that my plan is better, and haven’t been convinced that another way is better, I may go along with whatever the majority in the group decides for the sake of getting work done. However, in my mind, it is a petty type of waiting to see if what the group decided will fail and my way will be acknowledged as having been better.
I will always do the work to try and make sure that whatever the group has decided on will work the way we planned, but I also kind of bide my time curious to see if it will in fact work. That’s general Donecia. Leadership Donecia has a different mindset about the whole process because my goals are a little different depending on what role I play. If I am just an ordinary member of a group then I have as much say as everyone else, and I want what I want because I think I’m right. When I have some form of a leadership role, then I ultimately want the overall process to be as smooth and efficient as possible.
As a regular member, I just want to be heard, and hope that others will see the value in what I am saying. I will push for my plan up until the point where it no longer makes sense to. Then, I’m all about the whatever makes us succeed, but a part of me on the inside may not believe that we will because I am still convinced that I am right. I can be proved wrong; I have been. I have seen that my way isn’t always right or the only right way. That’s fine. I still celebrate the group’s success because I still worked to help us achieve it. I will consider our failure differently if we fail if we didn’t do what I wanted.
As a leader who recognizes when I’m in that position, I may favor one plan of action over another, but I am mediating to make sure that everyone, or a majority, can agree on what to do, and understands what is to be done. If my suggestion is not one the my group is open to and I’m not completely certain that choosing another option will lead to failure, then I may not fight as hard to get my point across. In this case, what I want most is to see us succeed, not waste much time, and other members feel as if they really played a role in the outcome. I compromise more easily.
Factoring my role in a group when it comes to the type of person I am works for me. Like I said, my goals in the situations are different. I feel that it is perfectly acceptable for me to argue my point when I’m on the same level as my peers. As long as I’m not really holding the group up or creating unnecessary conflict/drama, then I have a right to my opinion and being right. As a leader, my main role is managing the way my group functions. The attitude that I bring to the table when I am on the same level as the other members doesn’t work well here. I don’t want my group members to resent me and become defiant because they feel like their options aren’t being considered. I want the group as a whole to come as close to stress less process as possible.
I don’t like that people make assumptions about you based on how you handle these situations as if, circumstances are always uniform. I am very much a situationally appropriate person, so making some assumptions about my behaviors based a unique set of circumstances is unfair, but it happens frequently, and I accept that because I have to.