“Sex Before Marriage”

 

Culture is particularly the manifestations of human achievement regarded collectively. Around the world there are different cultures that we may experience to come around including our own culture that we believe in.  It contains a social behavior that is found in human societies and is socially transmitted customs, knowledge and materials. As a believing Christian and learning a lot about my culture, there was a decision to further looking into different cultures to understand their beliefs.  Mostly being an ethnocentrism believer, which assumes that one’s culture and way of life represent the norm or all others, didn’t realize that there were other cultures that varied.

            My culture believes that “No Sex Before Marriage”. Of course, Christians have this dream that you must get married, find the love of your life and have babies. You would think possible that, that’s something initially sounding right. Now in days, in this society, it doesn’t always work out to be that way. The Bible is the same focus and the rule book that Christians follow by. We read and follow the guide lines to have further life in the afterlife. The common word in the bible that explains the “No Sex Before Marriage” is used in reference “Porneia”. This catch the phrase for any sexual misconduct outside of marriage. Let’s face it, sex plays a big role in life as of today. Different cultures have a similar meaning when it comes down to marriage and sex. If this was obeyed then there would be less pregnancies, transmitted diseases, and even children growing up without parents. Culture is what we believe in basically to keep us safe.  

 

10 thoughts on ““Sex Before Marriage”

  1. I identify with this post on so many levels. Growing up in a very religious household the values of “no sex before marriage” has been instilled into my very being. Yes, we are a product of our culture and our environment and what that means can be understood on many different levels. In class, we had a discussion on love and marriage and what that means. Our culture is based on love and then we get married whereas some other cultures believe in tradition. Whether our culture is there to keep us safe is yet to be determined, but everyone has different values and what they believe is right. Thank you for this post, it is great!

  2. I have a great amount of respect for this idea. Many in our society, especially Hollywood, glorifies the idea of having sex with as many people as possible. This view regarding sex would limit so many problems our society has today. There would be far less sexual assaults. STD rates would also decrease substantially.

  3. I have a great amount of respect for this idea. Many in our society, especially Hollywood, glorifies the idea of having sex with as many people as possible. Your view regarding sex would limit so many problems our society has today. There would be far less sexual assaults. STD rates would also decrease substantially.

  4. I was not raised to be particularly religious, instead I was aware of church and it’s function, but given a choice as to whether or not I’d like to participate in it as a means of developing spirituality. Personally, I always thought of the Christian religion as corrupt and controlling under the guise of ”God would want it this way”. Which is why I chose to step away from the religion.

  5. I am a spirit-filled believer, and the Word of God is the standard for my life. I, however, did not grow up in the church, so I was subject to culture and the world’s way. I lived a life of sexual perversion, having sex before marriage. When I was 19, I had a radical encounter with Jesus Christ, and He turned my life around. I had no idea that my past wounds and brokenness was what was leading me down the enemy’s path for me of living a sinful life. Ever since seeking Jesus Christ, I understand my worth and identity in Him, and that has renewed my mind that a man does not deserve my body until marriage. And whoever I marry will be a believer and so actively seeking God that he will not be trying to get me in the bed but more focused on our spiritual growth. He will have the fruit of the spirit that will give him the conviction and patience to wait on God until our wedding day.

  6. In my beliefs and culture I am entitled to, we believe “sex before marriage” is a great thing for an individual to do. As a Christian, it comes with many blessings which we don’t see with our naked eyes. But as a believer, when something new is changing in your life, you can feel and sense it. It is very hard to keep this command in this era of ours but it is very important to keep up with his commands to receive his Grace!

  7. I like what you posted but I can’t really out either of the two options. No sex before marriage is great in the sense of std prevention and birth control. However, multiple partners allows us to get more experience and discover what like/dislike. If both partners utilize protection everything should work out fine.

  8. Wow!!!! Great post. Growing up in a Christian household, I was always taught ‘No sex before marriage” was important to pleasing God as well as a key to having a successful life and relationship. However, with all of the media and music portraying otherwise, it really is hard to live up to this belief. You almost feel “pressured” to have sex because you don’t want to be an outsider. I was always taught that if you believe for something, then stand by it and don’t let anyone make you feel bad about your decision.

  9. Interesting concept but purity culture tends to put undue emphasis on a woman’s purity over the men as it is believed that you can prove a woman’s purity by whether or not she has a hymen. This is problematic as many women are born without a hymen or one that does not fully cover the vaginal opening.

    Our DNA commands us to start having sex as the primary drive hormones are released into our system. This was once imperative for the survival of the species. We still have the biological drive which is strongly directed by the need for dopamine, oxytocin, and vasopressin, which are released through sexual arousal and pleasure. Oxytocin allows us to bond with others. In addition, vasopressin is important for our overall health as it helps to regulate blood pressure, especially in men. Sex is scientifically good for our bodies and keeps us healthy and happy. We have long had methods of controlling the spread of STDs and unwanted pregnancy. It’s a matter of teaching people how to be safe.

  10. I grew up in a religious household and as I got older I found that it got easier to stray from the church and their ideologies. But I also found that you can find your way back even though it might not be the easiest journey. Our society really emphasizes how much sex sells and not letting societal norms influence you shows strength. Although I don’t completely agree with the last part of your post, I respect and hear where you’re coming from.

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